If I were Queen

If I were Queen, people would not be allowed to:

1. Park badly
2. Cut you off
3. Leave the house in clothes that don't fit
4. Talk on the phone in line at the store
5. Call you back without listening to your message
6. Ask for advise from a bunch of people and then come up with a reason why EVERY.SINGLE.THING that has been suggested won't work! gah!
7. Change the radio station in YOUR car while you're driving

I'm sure there's more. Maybe this will be a two part series.

To Do:

1. Make Thanksgiving menu shopping list
2. Get all of my crap out of Brian's so his mother doesn't find it.
3. Roll eyes at the fact that his mother is such a snoop that things aren't even safe in his bedroom
4. Shop for Thanksgiving food
5. Put on a happy face.

yeah. that's it.

Not the football I was hoping for

33 to 25 Philly over Washington. That just farking sucks. Add to it the fact that the stupid Cowturds won and you basically have a sucktastic weekend of football.

ugh.

goodnight.

Quickly, before I forget!

Here is a post for Saturday...

We had the most lovely day. I slept quite a bit while Brian worked and then we decided to go a see a movie. Michael Clayton. It was... good. Not great. Not awful. Just good.

More tomorrow but I'm fighting the clock and I have guests who are waiting on me. :)

24 Season 7 ~ We hardly knew ye

Actually we knew ye not at all because you are officially the first casualty of the writers strike for the fox line up. :(

I'm quite sad. 24 and LOST are two of the shows we're most looking forward to and now 1/2 of that equation is gone. I hope LOST doesn't suffer a similar fate.

sigh.

Happy Birthday Wendee!

Today is the day that my dear friend Windizzle celebrates the anniversary of her birth. It's a good day to be sure, because well, she was born on it. And my world is a much better, brighter, hope-filled one because of her.

W's life hasn't always been sunshine and roses but if there were ever anyone who was going to make you believe in the power of love, it's her. When someone loses everything and then somehow has the strength to try again you have to admire them. I've never lost the way she has but I have learned from her that the only thing you can do is live through the pain of dealing with the bad stuff and then be ready to let the good into your life. It's there. The good is always there, waiting for us, hoping we'll notice it and Wendee is a shining example of what happens when we notice.

I love you WdJC. I don't get to see you and I don't get to talk to you as often as I would like but thank goodness for computers... the internet makes me feel like you're just across the street.

I hope you have the happiest of birthdays, middle name twin. *smooch*

All my love,
gailEE

It's a personality thing...

Those of you who read this and happen to know me, what do you think? Did the quiz get it right?

You Are An ENFP

The Inspirer You love being around people, and you are deeply committed to your friends. You are also unconventional, irreverent, and unimpressed by authority and rules. Incredibly perceptive, you can usually sense if someone has hidden motives. You use lots of colorful language and expressions. You're quite the storyteller! In love, you are quite the charmer. And you are definitely willing to risk your heart. You often don't follow through with your flirting or professed feelings. And you do break a lot of hearts. At work, you are driven but not a workaholic. You just always seem to enjoy what you do. You would make an excellent entrepreneur, politician, or journalist. How you see yourself: compassionate, unselfish, and understanding When other people don't get you, they see you as: gushy, emotional, and unfocused

What's Your Personality Type?

'Fess up

Everybody has something they do that's "wrong". Some people take the last donut. Some people get fired all the time. Some people steal parking spots from little old ladies.

Me? Well, I kill plants. I've tried and tried and tried to keep them alive. I follow the instructions of people far wiser than myself about the care and feeding of plants only to fail in the end. I should throw in the towel. I was doing really well with an orchid I was given but that, too, is now dead.

The worst part about that dead orchid? I'm going to replace it so the given doesn't find out I killed it.

Now it's your turn. 'Fess up. What do you do?

I am among the living...

more or less.

I went to work. So that was something. I'd say I'm a bit better for having slept the weekend away. So to commemorate my wasteful weekend a top 5 list

Top 5 Things Better Than Sleeping
5. Shopping. I love to shop when I have money.
4. Cooking.
3. Taking a walk on the beach.
2. Going to the movies.
1. Spending quality time with Brian.

There ya go. :)

Day 3 and I already screwed up :(

I basically slept all day yesterday and all day today. This is the best I can do for today.


sigh.

The day ending now would be good

I realize it's only 9:08am here in California. That does not stop me from wanting the day to be OVER. Just plain O.V.E.R. thank you very much. I'm also aware of the fact that it's Friday. Of the "oh yay it's Friday I'm about to have a whole weekend to do whatever I want!" Fridays.

Sadly, this is not how I feel. Why don't I feel this way? Well, for a few reasons. Last night I didn't get to watch Gray's. This made me sad and mad. Then in the middle of all this sadness and madness I noticed that my throat was hurting. That's not really a good sign when Brian has been sick for the last 2 weeks and it all started with a hurting throat. I passed out earlier than normal and was woken up by being smacked on the butt because I was snoring. I don't usually snore, at least not so loud that it would make Brian wake up and smack me on the butt or anywhere else. Snoring that loud is a sign that I'm congested. Hmmm, sore throat, achy body and congestion... guess what folks? I got myself a cold.

sigh.

This is what sick time was invented for right? Well, yes but in my case I need to conserve the 10 remaining sick hours I have for when my head is in need of being chopped off from the pain in it. A cold, a fever, anything short of puking means nothing in the face of possibly not being able to go home and chop off my head when it's hurting.

I also have other plans today like a brazilion waxing. And going to some party with my friend Tracy and then catching up on TV with Brian and Tracy because that's what we do on Friday nights. After that? Well after that I plan to go home with the wonderful man who gave this cold to me and take lots of drugs and pass out.

Which really, is what I want to do RIGHT NOW. Skip all that other stuff and just go straight to the drugs and the passing out.

Is there an express route to that option?

Day One - Top 10

I'm looking forward to this next month of writing on here everyday. Should be interesting. I was giving some thought as to what to write about today and I decided to start off with a Top 10 list.

The Top 10 things I love about November:
1. Thanksgiving food. It's so bad for you but so tasty!
2. Having a 4 day weekend
3. Two of my favorite people have Nov. birthdays
4. The Redskins and the Cowboys always battle it out in Nov.
5. It starts getting cold at night. All the better for cuddling!
6. Good TV. I'm a fan of sweeps months :D
7. Oscar buzz movies!
8. Hot chocolate.
9. It's almost Christmas time!
10. If leaves are changing in CA now is when they start to happen. *love*

The beatings will continue until moral improves

I write on a blog called Tonight We Make Soap, we often talk about the funny side of life and the humor we find on the web. I love that. I love knowing I make people laugh! It's a kick :D Check it out sometime. The folks I write with are a hoot!

Today though I wrote about a very unfunny topic but I felt compelled to discuss it anyway. It's a topic that has affected 2 people I know and I bet I have other friends who suffer from this and don't talk about it. Here is the bulk of my post over there.

The scary topic? Domestic Abuse. But not the kind you normally think of, this is about women abusing the men in their lives.

Some of you know that I'm a part time photographer. I've been the 2nd shooter at several weddings. Last September, I shot a wedding with my boyfriend. It was for one of his old high school friends. This October we found out he had filed for divorce. Why? Because his wife was verbally and physically abusing him. He honestly thought that marriage would make things better. That if he gave he what she wanted (a ring on her finger) that she would stop hitting him. She didn't. In fact, it got worse. Thank goodness he reached his breaking point quickly. I shudder to think what could have happened to him.

Why didn't he fight back? Well, I don't know. He's not a wimp. He's bigger than she is and he can hold his own. I can only guess that it was his gentle nature and his desire to make things work that made him take it. Many of the same reasons why women take it. The emotional manipulation that tends to go along with these situations can also make it difficult to fight back. If you're told for long enough that you are worthless you start to believe it.

I have another friend who's about to get married. He's marrying a women who has smacked him around in front of his friends. I can only imagine what she does when no one is watching. Telling him that she shouldn't be treating him that way hasn't helped. He makes excuses for her like so many battered partners do. I hope that he comes to his senses at some point because he's a nice guy. And even if he wasn't, no one should be anyone's punching bag.

I don't know why these women and so many like them beat their husbands and boyfriends. I'm glad I don't understand it. I never want to "get" why anyone would be so cruel to someone they "love". I know that one of the women in question drinks way too much and does drugs socially. The other woman I don't know as well, but based on what I've been told about her, a personality disorder might be the source of her issues. I hope these women can get help. I hope the men they abuse can find help, too. Sadly, most men don't get help because of the massive amount of shame that's associated with being beaten by your woman. What kind of real man lets that happen, right? Well I know two real men who have or continue to let that happen and it breaks my heart.

Shame and silence are the biggest problem for abused men. I don't know how many people will read this. I don't know if it will matter to anyone but me that I shared this issue. But if nothing else, I've broken the silence a tiny bit. I hope it helps.

Tag - You're It!

I've been tagged by Classy Cassie. Seven random facts about me.

1. When I cry the tears always start in my left eye and they always start in the middle of my instead of the corner.
2. I was terrified of gnats when I was little.
3. I have driven across the country 3 times.
4. I hate avocados. Please do not serve them to me.
5. I will backspace over an entire sentence if I misspell a word.
6. I am far more sensitive than most people realize.
7. I hate crickets.

I tag:

You

Don't get too excited but...

I thought you all might be interested to know that I'm going to do the November blogging challenge again. And I even bought this groovy little book to help me find new and interesting things to blog about. That's right, I'm going to blog something every single day in Nov. All of them.

Also for those who are interested I'm a contributor to another blog called: Tonight We Make Soap it's lots of fun and I'm enjoying being a part of it. Additionally, I'm doing a 365 blog. 365 blogs are most definitely the hot new thing but since I have to be difficult, I'm doing it with my cell phone camera. And I'm not doing 365 pictures of me. Cause, um, no. I am taking a picture everyday with my cell phone (or sometimes other people's cell phones) that documents my life in some form or fashion. So follow along if you're so inclined.

Life Path

The Life Path 3 indicates that you entered this plane with a strong sense of creativity and with wonderful communication skills. Achievement for you most likely comes through engaging your ingenious expression. A truly gifted 3 possesses the most exceptional innovative skills, normally in the verbal realm, writing, speaking, acting, or similar endeavors. Here we are apt to find the entertainers of the world, bright, effervescent, sparkling people with very optimistic attitudes. The bright side of this path stresses harmony, beauty and pleasures; of sharing your inventive talents with the world. Capturing your capability in creative self-expression is the highest level of attainment for this life path.

Life is generally lived to the fullest, often without much worry about tomorrow. You are not very good at handling money because of a general lack of concern about it. You spend it when you have it and don't when you don't.

The 3 loves connecting with people. The characteristics of the 3 are warmth and friendliness, a good conversationalist, social and open. A good talker both from the standpoint of being a delight to listen to, but even more importantly, one who has the ability to listen to others. Accordingly, the life path 3 produces individuals who are always a welcome addition to any social situation and know how to make others feel at home. The approach to life tends to be exceedingly positive. Your disposition is almost surely sunny and openhearted. A happy and often inspired person, you are constantly seeking and needing the stimuli of similar people.

There is a remote side to your 3 Life Path, as well. This comes as a surprise to the native and to those who think they are well acquainted. The 3 is actually a very sensitive soul. When hurt, you can easily retreat to a shell of morose silence for extended periods. Nonetheless, the 3 eventually copes with all of the many setbacks that occur in life and readily bounces back for more. It is usually easy for you to deal with problems because you can freely admit the existence of problems without letting them get you down for too long. Because of your own sensitivity to hurt, you have a caring disposition and seem to be very conscious of other people's feelings and emotions.

In romance, the 3 is a very ardent and loyal lover. Affairs that don't go well can leave scares that seem to linger. Emotional experiences of all sorts tend to deeply touch the 3 and the drama may take some time to play out. Regrettably, the giving disposition of the 3 often attracts demanding partners. As with most of life's issues for the 3 Life Path, balance in relationships is illusive.

Your big test with a 3 Life Path is controlling your highs and lows. You won't survive very well in any routine environment or when you are placed under dominating management. Slow thinking and overly contemplative people tend to frustrate you, and you don't function too well with this type whether you are working for, with, or under them. Your exuberant nature can take you far, especially if you are ever able to focus your energies and talents.

For the few living on the negative side of this Life Path, a 3 may be so delighted with the joy of living that the life becomes frivolous and superficial. You may scatter your abilities and express little sense of purpose. The 3 can be an enigma, for no apparent reason you may become moody and tend to retreat. Escapist tendencies are not uncommon with the 3 life path, and you find it very hard to settle into one place or one position. Guard against being critical of others, impatient, intolerant, or overly optimistic.

What's your life path number? Does it match the path your life has taken so far?

Who I am? Benevolent Creator

Benevolent Creator

about you
You are a Creator

• Your imagination, confidence, willingness to explore, and appreciation of beauty make you a CREATOR.
• You are independent, and you enjoy your self-sufficiency.
• Defying convention, you are very innovative, and you have a vivid imagination.
• The look of things is important to you, and you have a keen eye for aesthetic beauty in multiple arenas.
• You have a strong interest in what is new and exciting—and that includes forging ahead with new ideas, not simply discovering what is already out there.
• Your eagerness to seek new and varied experiences leads you into many different situations.
• You're not set on one way of doing things, and you are creative when it comes to finding novel solutions to complex problems.
• You trust yourself to be innovative and resourceful.
• Your confidence allows you to take your general awareness and channel it into creativity.
• You're not afraid to let your emotions guide you, and you're generally considerate of others' feelings as well.

If you want to be different:

• Appreciate the earthly, practical elements of things—there is beauty in form as well.
• While you are good at thinking abstractly, focusing on details a bit more may help you discover things about the world.

how you relate to others
You are Benevolent

• You are a great person to interact with—understanding, giving, and trusting—in a word, BENEVOLENT
• You don't mind being in social situations, as you feel comfortable enough with people to be yourself.
• Your caring nature goes beyond a basic concern: you take the time to understand the nuances of people's situations before passing any sort of judgment.
• You're a good listener, and even better at offering advice.
• You're concerned with others at both an individual and societal level—you sympathize with the plights of troubled groups, and you can care about people you've never met.
• Considering many different perspectives is something at which you excel, and you appreciate that quality in others.
• Other people's feelings are important to you, and you're good at mediating disputes.
• Because of your understanding and patience, you tend to bring out the best in people.

If you want to be different:

• You spend a lot of time taking care of others, but don't forget to take care of yourself!
• Sometimes you can get overcommitted, and when you sacrifice spending time with those close to you, it can make them feel unimportant.

Guilt. The gift that keeps on giving...

There's nothing like a little guilt to make you feel worse! I love this little comic strip. :)

Karen is the inspiration

Being friends with a Queen really pays off sometimes. So Queen Karana is the inspiration for this post. And the fact that it's been a month since I posted anything. Even in my anti-sharing mode, I still like posting things from time to time. So now is the time I guess ;)

45 Things About Me

1. Are you taller than your mom? Yes. As are both my sisters. In fact, my sisters are also taller than me!

2. What color is your car? a light slivery blue (when it's clean)

3. What is the closest thing to you that is red? a red ruler

4. What is your ringtone? I have different ones for different people but the main one is "Good People" by Jack Johnson

5. Are you sick? Nope. I'm good.

6. Do you have a favorite pillow? Yes. Three of them actually and they are all squishy!

7. What is your favorite game? hmmm. Well if we're talking board games my newest favorite is Taboo. On my computer I like Cubis Gold. On my phone it's jewel quest. (I play the phone one the most)

8. Had a nap today? Nope. And I won't.

9. Gold or Silver? In most cases I would say silver. Or white gold. I don't like yellow gold.

10. Is there an animal that creeps you out? Insects and rodents and snakes. I don't really care for anything like that.

11. Who was the last person you rode an elevator with? Amanda and Brian

12. Did you go ice skating as a kid? Yes. Not often though...

13. Ever have stitches? Yep. I've had 2 surgeries and they both required being stitched back up. I've also had them in my mouth when I had my wisdom teeth pulled.

14. Favorite non-alcoholic drink? Ginger Ale and cran-raspberry juice.

15. How long ago did you kiss someone? yesterday

16. What's something you want to do before you die? see as much of the world as I can.

17. Have you ever caught something on fire? Not accidentally

18. Have you ever seen a ghost? No.

19. Have you ever seen the northern lights? Yes.

20. Do you know how to use chop sticks? Yes!

21. Name something good that happened today. I got a new bookcase at work.

22. What room are you in? My office

23. Are you worried about something you can't control? Yes. But I try very hard to remind myself that my worry doesn't do anything positive for the situation and that all I'm doing is putting negative energy toward something that doesn't need negative energy.

24. Do you like to exercise? I feel good when I do it but I won't say I *like* to do it. All things being equal I'd like to have a perfect figure and be super healthy and energetic without having to exercise.

25. Ever been in a car wreck? Yes.

26. Are you wearing nailpolish? No. But I would like to go get a manicure. My nails are in desperate need of some TLC.

27. Favorite color? Right now I would say it's Pink.

28. Innie or Outie? Innie.

29. Ever been to Canada? No.

30. Sweet or Sour? sweet

31. Sun or Moon? I love a nice sunny day but I love a moonlit walk just as much.

32. What shoes did you wear today? Tennis shoes.

33. Favorite eye color of the opposite sex? Green. No question.

34. Most important quality in any relationship? I'm going to say honesty and kindness. The two much go hand in hand.

35. Favorite movie? Of all time? Shawshank Redemption and The Princess Bride. But really I have tons of moves I love and will watch over and over.

36. Time of day you were born? 11:25 am. I like to sleep in. ;)

37. Do you know your blood type? O+. Too bad getting more than one vile of blood from me is such a pain... I'd be a good donor.

38. What would you spend 5000 dollars on right now if you were handed it? a new camera (or two). A new lens for said camera (or two). Some software that I've been lusting after. And some new clothes and shoes. I also might go buy a Coach bag that I've been wanting but I'm not sure there would be enough. I'd also really want to put some of it into savings.

39. Name something you are grateful for! My friends.

40. Did you grow up in the city or country? I basically grew up in DC.

41. Would you ever consider going on a reality TV show if offered a large sum of money? Would I consider it? Of course. I don't know if I would *do* it. But I would absolutely consider it.

42. One of your dreams? To get married and have another baby (or two).

43. Hugs or kisses? Hugs. Although I'm a big fan of kissing, too. ;)

44. You have 10 dollars to spend in the dollar store. What do you get? Ummm , I haven't been in one in so long I don't know. probably coloring books and crayons. For me. Not for a kid. :D

45. Slurpee flavor? Coke. No question. It's the only one I ever get. I have been known to leave one 7-11 and go to another when they don't have coke slurpees.

My all time favorite Calvin & Hobbs

I've often asked that very question... why isn't the world ever unfair in my favor? The answer of course is that it is quite unfair in my favor a lot of the time. Or at least I think that's the answer. It's certainly better than the alternative. ;)